卡耐基 Generation Next青年领导力培训

Michelle

By Sarah Wang (English) and Michelle Huang (Chinese)

今年夏天，我参加了在亚特兰大举办的为期三天的卡耐基培训课程 Generation Next。在这个专门为高中生设计的课程中，我们系统学习了戴尔·卡耐基在其著作《如何赢得朋友和影响他人》和《如何停止忧虑，开始生活》中所阐述的原则。经过三天的学习，我对如何与周围的人互动、如何管理压力以及自身的能力有了更深入的理解。

课上做的第一件事就是制定未来三到六个月的愿景。之后每当讨论一个新主题时，我们都会思考一个自己想要做出的具体改变，然后考虑运用哪些原则来实现目标，达到愿景。这段课程帮助我找到了方向，让我明白我想要什么，是什么阻碍了我实现目标，以及如何克服它。

我们还探讨了人际关系的各项原则，并有机会练习一些简单实用的技巧。老师带着我们以充满乐趣和刺激的方式进行交流。他鼓励我们大声表达，增强自信心。他还教给我们如何建立更牢固的人际关系，以及如何妥善处理冲突和分歧。同学们也都积极分享了各自的生活故事。

除了提升我们的人际交往能力和自信心之外，这门课程的另一个目标是帮助我们更好地应对各种压力。大家都知道高中生们忙得不可开交！我经常感觉自己在同时处理十件事！老师给了一些关于如何更好地放松心情和管理时间的建议。我学会了如何减少焦虑，如何安排任务的优先级。这些技能很重要，可以帮助我完成课业同时避免不堪重负。

我通常是一个安静的人，不喜欢成为关注的焦点。但是这门课让我在人群中放松下来，并且有信心展现自我。授课老师和同学们都充满活力，大家在共同学习和分享个人经历中增进了联系和信任。一旦有人进入很自然的状态，其他人也就感到舒适。第一天结束时，我不再害怕显得傻乎乎的，也不再害怕被大家评头论足。我很惊讶自己能在这么短的时间内放松下来。

第三天下午是毕业典礼。每位学生都得到一张证书，并有机会分享自己这三天来的最大的收获。我最大的收获是学习到了如何清晰、有效、自信地沟通。我一直以为自己不擅长表达，因为以前说话总觉得困难。仅仅三天之后，我感觉与周围世界的互动明显多了而且相当自然，这让我非常高兴，也对未来充满信心。

诚挚感谢美中下一代教育基金会组织卡耐基青少年培训并且提供奖学金！对我来说这是一次非常宝贵的学习机会。

This summer Iparticipated in a three day class in Atlanta called Generation Next. During ourtime together, we learned about the principles Dale Carnegie wrote about in hisbooks, How to Win Friends and Influence People and How to StopWorrying and Start Living. After these three days, I’ve gained a betterunderstanding of how to interact with my community, how to manage stress, andof what I am capable of.

One of the very firstthings we did in this class was creating our visions for the next three to sixmonths. Then, every time we covered a new topic, we were encouraged to thinkabout one specific change we wanted to make, what principles we would use toget there, and how it would impact our visions. This helped give me direction,and allowed me to understand what it is that I want, what’s preventing me fromgetting there, and how I can fix it.

From there, we jumpedright in. We talked about each human relations principle, and got the chance topractice these skills and share stories from our own lives. We did so in funand exciting ways, and we were encouraged to be loud and expressive. Thisincreased our confidence, taught us how to build stronger relationships, andtaught us how to handle conflicts and disagreements properly.

In addition to improvingour people skills and confidence, another aim of the class was to help usmanage our stress better. With so much on our plates, it’s easy to findourselves juggling ten things at once while thinking about another five. Ourcoach gave us several tips on how to relax more and manage our time. I’velearned how to worry less and how to prioritize my tasks to avoid becomingoverwhelmed.

I’m typically a quietperson who likes to avoid being the center of attention, but this class helpedme feel more free and comfortable with putting myself out there. My coach andclassmates were a group of vibrant personalities, all working on the sameskills and sharing personal experiences. This helped us connect more and feelmore at ease together. Once one person felt comfortable going for it, the restof the group was able to let loose as well. By the end of the first day, I nolonger feared looking silly or being judged by the group. In such a short spanof time, I felt comfortable around everyone and was ready for whatever next.

Finally, we ended withour graduation ceremony. Every student had the opportunity to share theirbiggest takeaway from the course, and I’ll share mine again. My biggesttakeaway was how to communicate clearly, effectively, and with confidence.Speaking has always been difficult for me, but after only three days, I feelmuch better about interacting with the world around me.

Sincere thanks to the North America Volunteers for organizing the Carnegie Youth Training and providing thescholarship! This is a very valuable learning opportunity for me.